It can be really painful when your husband is looking at his phone and not paying attention to you. But the way that you respond, you have 100% control over that. When you learn that you can act charitably even when your husband is playing games on his phone, you are going to feel so powerful as a Catholic mom. This is what the sainthood journey looks like.
C: Husband looking at his phone
T: He doesn’t care about me.
A: Snippy with husband, snippy with kids, clean the house angrily, think of all the other ways he doesn’t care for you, act childishly, eating cookies/drinking wine/scrolling on your phone
R: You don’t care about him.
You don’t care about yourself.
C: husband looking at his phone
T: I wonder what’s going on with him.
A: Give him space, ask him later how he’s doing, check in with what your needs really are, serve your own needs, serve the kids.
R: You wonder what’s going on with him. You wonder what’s going on with yourself.
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TRANSCRIPT OF THE SHOW
Welcome to the Made for Greatness podcast. I’m your host, Sterling Jaquith, and today we’re talking about husbands looking at their phones. You could insert, by the way, playing video games, hunting, hanging out in his garage, right? Anything where your husband is doing something, it’s capturing his attention and you’re feeling kind of bitter, unloved, unseen, unheard because his attention is so focused on this other thing. But today we’re just gonna use the example of looking at his phone and you can just swap that out for anything else. So I’m gonna run a model with you guys today, and we don’t always do that and we’ve done that before on the podcast, but I’m gonna run a model. The model is the basic tool that we teach in our membership, and we have women run these models to understand what they’re really thinking and feeling. And I’m gonna show you how not knowing this is keeping you mad at your husband, treating him poorly, treating yourself poorly, being snappy with the kids.